Recently I was re-reading some of our early online conversations and rediscovered that my girlfriend is an ISTJ. I'm not sure what I am anymore, and am hestitant to take another keirsey test, but for the sake of this entry, I'll presume I'm an ENFJ. Considering my girlfriend's temperament is helpful to me, as it provides an interesting perspective to our relationship.
What I need to remind myself is the following, borrowed from http://www.personalitypage.com/ISTJ_rel.html.
"Since ISTJs make decisions using the Thinking function (rather than Feeling), they are not naturally likely to consider their mates feelings and emotions in daily living. ... The ISTJ needs to remember that others may need to hear that they are loved and valued, even if the ISTJ doesn't need to hear this themself."
With that in mind, it's no wonder that I had been getting feelings that she was emotionally neglecting me. It had been strange to me that I was enjoying our conversations, but was feeling that something was missing. And to think, I was almost to the point of pressuring her to improve her expression of emotion.
Well, I think that in the future, I'll try to be a bit more receptive to her given my observations of her behavior to be and a view of it from an ISTJ perspective.